At the most difficult time of life, what makes you stick to it?
If you happen to be in trouble and suffering at this moment, I would like to tell you: “ Although it is very difficult at present, this experience may bear fruit in the future& rdquo; I don’t know if this can be a consolation, but please think in this way and move forward& mdash;& mdash; Haruki Murakami
Last week, a Book Story collected “ What makes you stick to the most difficult moment in life& rdquo;
After reading the manuscript, people burst into tears. Fortunately, you were still around on those bumpy roads, as well as unconvinced and dreams.
Netizen – happy
In the graduation season in june2000, after the internship, we were waiting for the news of our work in the dormitory. My classmate said: “ Go with me to meet a netizen. I met him in the Netease chat room& rdquo;
Everyone danced with excitement when they met. However, after the meeting:
My ID card and 300 yuan of all my belongings disappeared like steam.
What about the rations for the next month and a half? The only certificate that can prove your identity is gone. Your graduation certificate came down in July. What should I do?
If I find a temporary worker right away, I also need to pay a deposit in advance. I have a strong sense of self-esteem and will not lower my head to borrow money from my classmates, because I want to preserve my dignity.
This little thing may not be a big deal to others at that time, but for me, it is no less than the feeling that the monkey king is sealed at the foot of Wuzhi Mountain!
There were only two bags of instant noodles in the box under the bed. In the next two days, I broke the instant noodles into four portions, two portions in the morning and two portions in the evening to soak in a lot of water. Only one third of the seasoning bag was put in, and the rest was drunk in the soup at noon. Every time the students in the dormitory ate, I hid.
After three days of this, I still haven’t heard from my work. Finally, I am too hungry to support myself. I feel sick when I think of instant noodles &hellip& hellip;
At noon on the third day, the cigarette (the nickname of her classmates) said to me: “ How about you do me a favor& rdquo;
I said: “ What’s up& rdquo;
She said: “ Will you join me for lunch? I’m not feeling well recently. I don’t eat much. My parents always call me to ask what to eat for each meal. I’m bored. You help me choose. I can’t finish eating. You help me finish. My cousin is also in our school. He will report to my parents. Hey, if he still does this in a few days, he will go to the hospital& rdquo;
When she said this, she agreed without thinking anything. At that time, I was as simple as glass, and my EQ was not high. I couldn’t hear the implication at all.
In this way, three days have passed. Every noon is my happiest time.
Being able to help others, I feel the power of being trusted and recognized by others. I don’t realize that I am actually the one being helped.
The students’ work was basically implemented. Some went home to develop, some parents arranged for them, and the cigarettes went back to an enterprise in their hometown of Shandong. I stayed in Dalian and entered an Internet company as the front desk at that time.
When we parted, she gave me a gift and said: “ Come to Longkou to find me when you have time. You can open the envelope in the evening! You are so talented and willing to toss about. You can’t make a mistake in the future &hellip& hellip;& rdquo;
Many words have been forgotten. He waved goodbye to me with a smile. His eyes were full of encouragement and trust. He was the only student who said these words to me.
Open the envelope at night and have a look? Threehundred dollars! A letter:
??“ Accompany me to meet the netizens. I lost my money and my ID card. I know you want to be strong and don’t want to ask for someone. I won’t ask for it if I give it to you. If you want to go to work, I believe you can. The current difficulties will pass. Keep the money. There is still a month to pay &hellip& hellip; I don’t have much literary talent, so I’d like to see what you write with you often &hellip& hellip;& rdquo;
The eyes are sweating instantly, just like now, holding the mobile phone and smiling, but the eyes are sweating as before.
In the years to come, no matter the investment failure or the disease, those who will always support me will have my girlfriends’ childish smiling faces that will not be called beautiful, and the trust and encouragement from the clear eyes that may not be washed out with holy water.
On the way to growth, many people who helped and paid for me would remind me of her “ Cigarettes;. Thank you, my best friend!
Netizen an Xuanyu:
It’s my mother. Because I live with my mother, I feel like a walking corpse when I am depressed.
Sorry, I don’t know how to describe the mood at that time. I couldn’t figure out the mood at that time.
I can only think that if I die and my mother is left alone, I will stick to it. It’s much better now.
In fact, my mother doesn’t say anything nice, nor does she cry.
She has to work. Sometimes, when I was at home, I felt sorry for her when I saw her on a hot day and had to go to work.
Later, I was hospitalized, and the place was very bad. After her work, she took another threeorfour hours to see me. My mother has been with me without complaining about me. Later, I was discharged from the hospital. Now at least I can keep an upward attitude, and at least I will never think of death again.
In fact, I thought my mother didn’t understand the world at all. Later, I learned that she knew what life was like best. She may not have any great reason and is not sociable, but she can maintain a good relationship with everyone. I think this is the most difficult thing for me to do.
Her presence makes me feel at ease. As long as I know she is still there, I have the confidence to persevere.
What I want to say to her is: “ Please cry if you want& rdquo;
Lovelorn, every night in the quilt to cry.
My parents heard it when they lived upstairs. They don’t say much, just silently try their best to take care of my life.
Later, my mother bought me a member of a dating website and came out like this &hellip& hellip;
I never felt hard before I had a baby.
Even in order to get pregnant, during my pregnancy preparation time of more than two years, I went all over the major hospitals in the provincial capital, did a lot of examinations, ate a lot of traditional Chinese medicine and Western medicine, and spent all my savings from working for several years. I still feel that this is just a small bump in my life. When the child comes, everything will slowly get better.
I didn’t expect that it was the arrival of the children that made earth shaking changes in my life. My life is full of anxiety, helplessness, panic and endless tiredness.
To make matters worse, Bao’s father turned a stranger to me and my children. We split into two worlds at once.
I am like trapped in a swamp. I have no ability to resist and escape. It is so difficult to stay where I am.
It is said that the first two years of childbirth are the most difficult time for a woman, and I, like myself, take my baby alone in a distant foreign land “ False single mother ” It is a hundred times harder than normal!
Especially when the child is sick and goes to the hospital, a person holds a crying baby to cope with various examinations. It’s kind of “ It is called that every day should not be, and that the earth should not work ” When it was the most difficult, I even thought about jumping down from the upstairs with my child in my arms.
A woman is weak, but a mother is hard. A child makes me weak and makes me stronger.
Along the way, there are children’s smiling faces and each time “ Mom ” Your call supports me, keep going!
Netizen Che Yiling:
A person’s leisure time, like walking in the garden. People in twos and threes walked together to enjoy the birds’ singing and flowers’ fragrance on the way, and their happy voices lingered in my ears for a long time.
Slowly stepping down, I stayed where I was, staring at their backs from my depressed eyes until they were farther and farther away from me &hellip& hellip;
It seems that I should have been a lonely patient. In this bustling and bustling world, I am monotonous, ordinary and so out of tune.
I can always create a lot of sadness for my life. I keep thinking about my friends who have slowly dispersed with the growth rings of time, my loved ones who have passed away, and the sadness of parting. After the sudden excitement, there was only endless depression. In countless dark nights, I held my thin body tightly with my hands like a child.
??“ We are not friends& rdquo;
The harsh voice is constantly winding around my ears. I’m the only one left with criticism, lack of tolerance and understanding from others. I watched people come and go and traffic was busy. I walked aimlessly all the way and lost a lot of friends all the way.
In the biting winter night, draw a blank piece of paper, sit on a single sofa, open a bottle of tasteless wine, and make an unattended phone call. You know, my gray life is like a black-and-white movie with no ending.
Surrounded by loneliness, day after day, boring time flows slowly with the ancient clock.
Since then, I have never been to the happy garden, nor to see the people walking in pairs. I escaped from the noisy crowd, avoided the noisy outside world, and stopped in the bookshop full of books.
Counting a wide range of books with my fingertips and gently flipping through flexible papers, it seems to have become a resting place for me and a harbor for my mind when I am helpless.
And the bookstore is like my unique stage, holding a book and drinking a cup of tea, intoxicated.
Forgetting the loneliness and sadness in life is like stepping into my happy country, reading your stories and listening to your songs. When life is so bad that it collapses to the ground, we constantly absorb the soul chicken soup in books and ink.
A touch of sunset at dusk, through the hazy window screen, dyed a quiet, the wind stirred print curtain in the floating light and shadow, the noise of cars and horses mixed with the smell of firewood, rice, oil and salt. In these morning and evening days, I just like this life at this moment.
Dear yourself, don’t be afraid. In the torrent of suffering, we will always grow up.
Netizen – where is the sea
Because of love, I was unconsciously isolated by my roommate.
First love loved me very much and was very good to me. Later, I broke up. I was alone all of a sudden. I didn’t want to integrate into their circle or fall in love again.
Then it becomes &mdash& mdash; Tour guide certificate, CET-6, computer grade-2, IELTS of New Oriental Studies, postgraduate entrance exam &hellip& hellip; Fortunately, I passed the exam.
Some roads are really only taken by oneself, and some circles do not need to be forced into harmony.
That period of postgraduate entrance examination is probably the most difficult time I can think of at present. One side is lonely, one side is trying, one side is afraid, one side wants to give up, and the other side is holding on.
Once thought he could not endure the ridge, so he insisted. Believe in yourself and don’t give up. Everything will get better in the end.
At the age of 14, I went to work in Tianjin alone. I got a salary of 700 yuan a month, regardless of food and accommodation.
I’m the youngest person in the store. I can’t speak Mandarin. I’m introverted.
The salesmen were not able to talk at first. They were forced to clean up for a month and wash their clothes.
When I was the poorest, I didn’t even have money to eat. I lost 20 kilograms in a few months.
I also want to go back and escape. It is not anything else that makes me stick to it, but that I am a little unconvinced. Even if I have no culture, I can still be an excellent person.
This is the idea that has kept me going until now.
Netizen – Gu Meng:
The most difficult thing for me was that I was on the rise after I became a full-time employee in the first year, but my father found out that I had cancer. At that time, I felt that the sky was falling.
I was busy working and trying to make money, and then I had to go to the hospital in my spare time. My relatives also didn’t understand. They said that I was not filial and thought I should resign and take care of my father wholeheartedly. At that time, I was really on the verge of collapse. Giving up work meant that all my previous efforts were in vain and that my family lost a share of income.
The position of many relatives is that they are filial only when they resign to take care of my father. They can’t understand me. However, my father thought about me everywhere at that time. He didn’t want me to give up the job he was trying to pursue and comforted me. At that time, his heart was very, very complex and worried.
Later, I communicated well with the Department Manager, readjusted the working shift time, and tried to spend more free time with my father in the hospital. Later, miraculously, the doctor told my father that his cancer was slowly getting better, and the family of three got through the difficulties in this way.
But I have been very guilty about this until now. I don’t have much time to spend with my family. When there are problems with guilt, I still have difficulties in choosing my own work. When I think about it, I feel that I am very unfilial.
Netizen he Dengping:
He suddenly went bankrupt and had debts of more than 3 million yuan. He was in poor health. He was admitted to hospital six times a year and subsequently refused to be insured by the insurance company. Grandma came home unattended. Mother likes gambling. The current man was gone forever, and then the child’s biological father died. He had no money to bury his ashes and has been kept in a different funeral home.
However, I still smile every day, tears will not flow again. I will set a good example for my two teenage sons. As long as my life is still alive, everything will pass. My health is getting better and I have to feed my family. The money should be earned back and the debt should be paid off so that the family can no longer rent a house.
Is the child, is the mother, is not to admit defeat, is not to believe that men really so realistic, do not believe that I can not find their own happiness. Therefore, I will continue to prove that I can have happiness.
I want to prove that I can be a good mother and let my two sons know how to be a responsible man. I always believe that I can realize my dream!
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