Someone advised me to bury her ashes. I would rather have the urn in my bedroom, and I felt like she was still with me. (Ba Jin)
During the Republic of China period, there were fierce wars, but countless outstanding figures emerged, who were leading figures in many fields. Especially in the literary world, there have been many talented individuals who have written brilliantly and are definitely worth reading. But in this special era, many talented people’s emotional experiences are somewhat awkward, and few of them end up with a single person.
Lu Xun’s original consort, Zhu An, waited for her whole life without waiting for her eldest husband to give her a few more glances; Xu Zhimo’s original mate, Zhang Youyi, was abandoned when she was pregnant. Xu Zhimo thinks she is very old-fashioned; Guo Moruo’s original partner, Zhang Qionghua, has been alone in the vacant house for 68 years. Let’s say thank you&# 8230&# 8230; However, there are still affectionate men in the Republic of China, and today’s talk about Ba Jin is very devoted.
Ba Jin, formerly known as Li Yaotang, is a master of literature in China and is known as “the conscience of Chinese literature in the 20th century”. He wrote popular articles such as “The Trilogy of the Rapids” (“Home”, “Spring”, “Autumn”), “The Trilogy of Love” (“Fog”, “Rain”, “Electricity”), and “The Trilogy of the Anti Japanese War” (“Fire” 1, 2, 3).
Ba Jin is very talented and has a very dedicated relationship. Ba Jin’s wife Xiao Shan is one of his readers and the first and only woman to make Ba Jin emotional. The two have gone through hardships but their relationship has always been very good. Unfortunately, after 28 years of being together, Xiao Shan passed away due to illness. Ba Jin has never forgotten his wife. How special is he?
Ba Jin placed his wife’s ashes next to his pillow and slept with him every night until his death in 2005. Before Ba Jin passed away, he left his last words: mix his ashes with his wife’s and scatter them into the sea&# 8230;
How did Ba Jin and his wife Xiao Shan get to know each other?
She is one of my readers. I first met her in Shanghai in 1936. We lived together as friends in Guilin twice in 1938 and 1941. We got married in Guiyang in 1944. When I met her, she was less than twenty, and I should take great responsibility for her growth. She read my novel, wrote me a letter, and later met me and developed feelings for me. (Ba Jin)
The love story between Ba Jin and Xiao Shan began in 1936. At that time, Ba Jin was already an outstanding writer. With the release of Ba Jin’s works such as “Home”, he had become the idol of many young people, and many people wrote letters to him in pursuit of him. But Ba Jin didn’t take a liking to anyone until Xiao Shan appeared.
Xiao Shan (formerly known as Chen Yunzhen) is a student at Shanghai Patriotic Girls’ High School, 13 years younger than Ba Jin. Xiao Shan appreciated Ba Jin’s talent and wrote him a letter. Xiao Shan’s writing was immature but affectionate, leaving a deep impression on Ba Jin. The two began to communicate. After communicating for more than half a year, the two of them never met before. In the end, Xiao Shan took the initiative to request a meeting: “The written conversation is so harmonious, why can’t we have an interview? I hope Mr. Li can agree to my request
Xiao Shan made an appointment for a time and place, and also posted a photo. In the photo, Xiao Shan is wearing short hair, a white and black dress, and a lace straw hat on her head. The photo reads: “Leave a memorial for my beloved gentleman.” During the correspondence, Ba Jin had a good impression of her. Now that she sees the dignified and beautiful Xiao Shan in the photo, she even likes her more.
Ba Jin arrived at a caf é as scheduled to meet Xiao Shan. Xiao Shan was wearing a school uniform, but she was very talkative. When she saw Ba Jin, she smiled and said, “Mr. Li, you are much younger than I imagined.” Ben Ba Jin, who was not good at talking, was amused and smiled and replied, “You look more like a doll than I imagined! Can you tell me your name?” Seeing this, many people would say that they have been communicating for half a year and still don’t know your name. That’s because Xiao Shan didn’t use her real name when they communicated.