The Three Kingdoms period, the Wei and Jin Dynasties, was a very aesthetic era. There were both the aesthetics of wisdom and courage and the aesthetics of virtue and virtue, which were Temple level. There is also the aesthetics of human desire, especially the aesthetics of male and female eroticism.
Zhugeliang insisted on marrying an ugly wife, and Xu Yun sublimated his realm in the process of accepting an ugly wife. However, those who coexisted with these virtues were erotic men and women who abandoned Confucius’ teaching that “good virtue is like lust”. They loved beauty and were obsessed with sex. In fact, there was something touching about this, and it could also improve the realm of life.
Unusual love and marriage: is beauty a necessary quality for women? No beauty without marriage
In fact, the Three Kingdoms is also an erotic era. The lethality of beautiful women and handsome men is sometimes no less than that of Lu Bu and Guan Yu, and even rewrites the strategic purpose of a campaign.
For example, there is an example in “Shi Shuo Xin Yu, bewitching and drowning”: when Cao Cao and his son entered Yecheng, Yuan Shao’s hometown, his father Cao Cao heard that Zhen, the wife of Prince Yuanxi, was “Hui but colored”, smart and beautiful. He hurried to order him to accept Zhen. As a result, Cao Pi, his son, was faster than “saying that Cao Cao Cao would arrive” and had already taken the beauty for himself. Lao Cao, who was half a beat slower, was dismayed to realize that the goal of the campaign had changed. He said: “this year’s battle is for this boy.” Give the fruits of the war to Cao Pi.
Today’s focus is not on the Cao family, but on a lecherous scholar and a beautiful wife in the Three Kingdoms period. Lao Cao had a most effective counselor named Xun Yu, and Xun Yu had a youngest son named xuncan with the word Fengqian. Xuncan was a famous metaphysician and a social celebrity at that time. He had talent, temperament and personality. His views on marriage and love were very different from the mainstream of society.
Cao Cao’s niece is a beautiful woman
He publicly announced: to marry a wife, don’t look at whether she is smart or virtuous. The so-called “lack of intelligence” is OK as long as she is beautiful and a beautiful woman. This kind of “Lust theory” in marriage and love was really shocking at that time. Xu Yun, who worked with him in the state of Wei, married a “dinosaur sister” and struggled against it for a while. After being seriously educated by his friends and wife, he didn’t know whether he realized it or recognized it. Anyway, he went into his bridal chamber. Of course, the fact proves that this marriage is correct. But in this process, there is accommodation, unwillingness and submission.
Xuncan was not willing to submit to the requirements of society for “scholars”. He made it clear that he was “lecherous” and wanted to marry beautiful women. Of course, this attitude towards marriage and love is wrong, and the realm is not high, but I have to admire his directness. He learned that the daughter of Cao Hong, the general of hussars, was a beauty, and the historical records recorded that she was “colored”. So they sent people to propose.
Xuncao’s family is an old colleague and counselor of Cao Cao. Xuncan himself is also a famous scholar. People who have read the romance of the Three Kingdoms know that Cao Hong is Cao Cao’s younger brother. He died to protect Cao Cao’s eldest brother on the battlefield, so the two families are equal, so he got married.
She married the beautiful lady of the Cao family. She was indeed a great beauty. In xunchan’s words, although she was not a city toppling the country – “there can be no difference between cities toppling the country”, she was at least a difficult beauty – “not easy to meet”.
It is estimated that it can not be compared with Zhen and the legendary Diao Chan, but it is also a first-class beauty. In fact, the so-called “beautiful women” are often interpreted in terms of Machiavellian politics.
When the beautiful woman got married, Xun can got what he wanted and was very excited. He decorated his new house magnificently to match his wife’s beauty. The couple are also very affectionate. It goes without saying that they are like glue. However, will this marriage based on erotic beauty last long? Can feelings be single-minded& lt;!&# 8211; end–& gt;
Unusual care: use your body to absorb cold air to cool your wife
Fate always envies beautiful things such as beauty and talent. Xuncan married a beautiful woman. It was not long before his daughter-in-law became ill and got a fever. She was afraid of heat in cold weather.
Seeing his beautiful wife suffering from heat, Xun can was distressed. He had always been very smart. He did a foolish thing: braved the wind and snow, he went outdoors in thin clothes, was blown by the cold wind for love, was drenched by rain and snow, absorbed a lot of cold air with his body, and then ran back to hold his wife and cool her body – “he went out of the atrium to warm himself, but also ironed it with his body”. This stupid husband keeps repeating this stupid behavior every day in order to make the beautiful wife feel better.
Lament that “beauty is rare”
Thinking back to the winter of the third century AD, Xun can ran back to his bedroom in the wind and snow, held his seriously ill wife, passed the cool air with love to her, and perhaps asked foolishly, “dear, are you cooler?” What kind of move should that beauty Cao be? When I wrote here, I suddenly felt that I could no longer condemn Xun can’s “lecherous theory” from a moral point of view. I was so good to my wife that I could not use lecherous to summarize his view on marriage and love.
The beautiful daughter-in-law died with the coolness passed on to her by her husband. According to xuncan’s “lecherous theory”, since the wife’s beauty is the most important thing, and a beautiful individual has disappeared, they should quickly look for another beautiful individual. According to common sense, lecherous people chase after the subject of sex, not the subject of emotion.
However, things were unexpected. At his wife’s memorial meeting, although Xun can didn’t cry, he was dejected. He was not afraid of physical injury, but he was afraid of divine injury. The external sadness could be dissuaded. If it was the deep sadness in the heart, it was the internal injury that could not be dissuaded.
Fu Peng, an old friend of xuncan, was puzzled. He enlightened xuncan and said, “brother, don’t you usually say that beauty is the key to marrying a wife? Beauty is not so difficult to meet. Just marry another beautiful one. There’s no need to be so sad.” Fu Peng’s spiritual realm could not keep up with xuncan at all. Xuncan said a desperate word: “it’s hard to have a beautiful woman!” As soon as this remark was made, no friend expressed his understanding, which may not be understood at that time.
In fact, this sentence is at the level of connotation. It is not only “beauty” that is hard to get, but also the love with “beauty” as the carrier. It is not only hard to get, but actually I don’t want to get it again.
It was only more than a year after the death of her daughter-in-law. Xun can “mourned for what she had to do”. She was so sad that she couldn’t control her thoughts. Then she took her life as the price of love and went with her. When she left, she was less than 30 years old. It was a martyrdom.
Unusual ending: dying for his wife and being spurned by the society
Xun can’s death had an extremely “adverse” impact on the society at that time. Originally, such a famous and talented person, and all his friends were heroes at that time, a large number of people should attend his memorial service. As a result, his “lustful” remarks and his behavior of sacrificing his life for love were despised by the upper class of the society, and only a dozen people attended the memorial service.
Not understood by friends
These ten or so friends cried very sad. The sad thing was not his death, but his “shameful” words and deeds. They all talked about it like this: young master Xun, you are an eloquent person. You are a man of realm. How can you not cherish your life for the sake of a beautiful woman? It’s a pity that this man doesn’t follow the right path.
Xuncan’s words and deeds may have had a negative impact on the society at that time. There was a well-known figure named Peikai who came out immediately to disinfect the society: Mr. xuncan’s so-called “lustful marriage and love theory” and his act of dying for his beautiful wife were just a spur of the moment. I hope that everyone will not imitate it and that future generations will not be bewitched – “Fei shengdeyan, Hebei future generations have not been ignorant of this.”
Xuncan was lonely, separated from the social mainstream at that time, and could not be understood by the whole era. Because his words and deeds do not conform to the mainstream, no one has written his love story into poetry or opera. Everyone is moved by the fictitious story of liangshanbo and Zhu Yingtai. The truly touching Xun can has been buried in the dust of history. Only a few dozen words were left for him in a corner of Shishuoxinyu, and he also wore a “bewitching” hat, which is clearly used as a negative teaching material.
Xuncan was lustful. However, he was loyal to the lust of the special individual he liked, and used his life to strengthen and maintain it. He loved because of his lust, became infatuated because of his love, became specialized because of his infatuation, and died because of his specialization. His “theory of lust” is indeed negotiable, but his love for his sick wife and his martyrdom seem to have made the best redemption for this fallacy and exposed the emotional truth behind the theory of lust.