The Three Kingdoms is a world of male heroes. From the physical work of attacking cities and pulling out strongholds to the mental work of planning strategies, men are all operating. Beside this magnificent and gorgeous picture of the times, there will be some insignificant lace and tassels, that is, the role of women. Occasionally, oneortwo women who walked into the center of the painting, such as sun Xiaomei, have a little masculine color.
However, heroes kill and set fire outside during the day, or stop others from killing and setting fire. When they return home from work, they still have to get along with women. It can be said that there is a larger female world around the heroes than the stage of the Three Kingdoms. These women do not contribute to history, but exist so large and truly.
What are these grandma, aunt, sister and sister thinking? What kind of spiritual world do they have beyond the heroic ambition?
Let’s talk about the daughter-in-law of the Cao family. It’s not easy to marry a woman of the Cao family.
First generation daughter-in-law: Mrs. Ding resolutely broke up with Cao Cao
Mrs. Ding is Cao Cao’s main room. She has no children. Cao Cao and Liu Fu have a son: Cao ang, the eldest son. Mrs. Liu died early, and Mrs. Ding took Cao ang as her son. I think a woman who has no children of her own will pour her maximum maternal love into the children she has brought up. The ancients said it well: “if you carry a burden, you will be afraid of it.” Holding on to his or her back, for fear that he or she might have an accident and die halfway.
Lady Ding loves young master Cao so much that Cao Cao doesn’t cherish it very much. He wants to take lady Ding’s darling out to practice. Moreover, it’s not a military exercise. It’s a real war to fight against Zhang Xiu. This was in 197 ad. the battle had been peacefully resolved, and Zhang Xiu surrendered.
Cao Cao felt guilty for Mrs. Ding until he died
Cao Cao, who didn’t want to be brilliant and broad-minded, also had trouble because of his private morality. He wanted to pick up girls. What girl was not easy to pick up, but he picked up Zhang Xiu’s aunt. This bubble spoiled the newly formed Cao Zhang united front. Zhang Xiu launched a rebellion, and the lives of his son, nephew and good general Dian Wei were all ruined by Cao Cao’s one-time bubble girl.
Cao Ang’s death was a fatal blow to Mrs. Ding. She did not turn grief into strength, nor did she speak of glory without conscience. This strong mother cried and shouted to Cao Cao all day long: you are not sad to kill my son! “Kill my son and don’t even think about it.”
Cao Cao was fed up with her crying and roaring, so he sent it back to his mother’s house to make her more angry.
Is Ding Fu popular? After a few days, the guilty Cao Cao went to his father-in-law’s house to pick up his wife. Mrs. Ding was weaving. Cao Cao walked behind her, stroked her back and said, “darling, come back with me by car.” Mrs. Ding didn’t look back at him and didn’t say anything. Cao Cao reluctantly walked out of the room and asked through the window, “is there really no hope of recovery?” Mrs. Ding shouldn’t, Cao Cao said very reluctantly, “you really broke up with me, it’s amazing.” So she was allowed to remarry, but who dares to marry the woman led by Cao?
Mr. Yi Zhongtian also talked about this historical material. My purpose today is to explore this woman’s heart knot. In terms of Mrs. Ding’s position, if she wants to survive in the Cao family, she must have resources, and the best resource is children. She took pains to raise ang Zi with a bubble of shit and urine. The history does not record Cao Ang’s date of birth, but it can be inferred from being able to go to the front and be responsible for the cover that Cao ang has reached the age to work and participate in the revolution.
From the perspective of mother, it is not difficult to understand Mrs. Ding’s psychology: my mother finally cultivated this resource, but you don’t use it sparingly. A battle will be reimbursed, and my mother’s status and future in the Cao family will be destroyed. Around Cao ang, the gap between mother’s love and father’s love makes Mrs. Ding hate Cao Cao. What really made Mrs. Ding hate Cao Cao to the bone was that although Cao ang sacrificed honorably according to the organization’s standards, he paid for his father’s girls with his own life. Try to understand from the perspective of a mother that your dearest son died of her husband’s pick-up behavior. Can you forgive all this?
Therefore, Mrs. Ding left a decisive figure in front of the loom for the Cao family and history. As the first generation daughter-in-law of the Cao family, Mrs. Ding’s heart is hate, life is bitter, and she is unhappy. Many years later, Cao Cao, who was critically ill, said with regret, “I’m dead. I met Cao ang under nine springs. If he asked me: where did you get my mother? How can I explain?” This is probably the softest corner of Cao Cao’s inner world recorded.
Yang Xiu was killed. Mrs Bian wrote a letter to comfort Yang Xiu’s parents
Among Cao Cao’s wives, the one with the best reputation is, of course, Mrs Bian. She is the mother of Cao Pi, Cao Zhang and Cao Zhi. She is thrifty, magnanimous and reasonable. There is no need to say more. Mrs Bian has also played a good auxiliary role in her husband’s work. Once in history, she was good at crisis public relations for her husband.
Cao Cao killed Yang Xiu, but it’s not over. Yang Xiu still has his family, especially his father, Taiwei Yang Biao. He has to meet this old comrade every day at work, and he must be explained.
Cao Cao stubbornly wrote a letter to Mr. Yang to explain that although your son of the Yang family was smart, he didn’t listen to the leaders. In order to save your family, I, Cao Cao, killed my relatives. Of course, it was me who killed your relatives. Bring this boy to justice, “I will be tired under my feet, and I will be punished”. Then he gave a lot of gifts to the Yang family.
Cao Cao felt that men’s words alone could not deal with the situation well, so he invited Mrs. Bian to engage in Mrs. Bian’s public relations, and then wrote a letter from a female perspective to smooth the situation a little more. Mrs. Bian wrote another letter to the grief stricken parents of Yang Xiu. From this letter, it can be seen that Mrs. Bian is different from Mrs. Ding’s resolute determination, but a very measured political woman who can use political skills. She put aside the political and military principles, and first gave the victim a positive evaluation: “the talent of the world”, and our family respected him very much. Then, I didn’t know that Yang Xiu deserved what he deserved, deliberately blurring the issue of principle, saying that it was the age of war, and he paid attention to organizational discipline. I heard that his son seemed to have violated the military order. Use these two points to iron the hearts of the victims’ families. Then, she accused her husband: my husband was really too impatient, “Ming Gong was impatient and angry”, and corrected Comrade Yang, but the accusation was not equal to negation, and argued that Cao Cao was to maintain military discipline. Finally, he explained that he had reservations about killing Yang Xiu: I didn’t know the situation at that time. After hearing it, I was very shocked and sad, “stunned and cut off”. Please forgive the old man and the old lady.
This is a very skillful public relations letter, which is not inferior to those diplomatic letters of the first lady of the president today. With her intelligence and low profile, Mrs. Bian was able to do well in the Cao family and enjoyed glory. She lived until her grandson ascended the throne. She was happy to be the “Empress Dowager” of the state of Wei. However, is she happy?
Everyone knows the story of her three sons fighting. In 213 ad, Cao Pi poisoned his younger brother Cao Zhang with poisonous dates at the residence of Empress Dowager Bian. Cao Pi is cruel enough to kill his brother in front of his mother. The poor mother went to the well to fetch water in person to detoxify zhang’er. However, the container for fetching water was damaged, and the palace maids and eunuchs dared not help. A helpless mother watched her helpless son die helplessly, and her heart must be crying: child, what can I do to save you? Finally, in the ruthless political ecological field, the mother pleaded with her eldest son, the murderer Cao Pi, and said: you hurt your second brother, don’t hurt your third brother anymore.
From this inference, is Mrs Bian happy? Everyone knows the answer.
Second generation daughter-in-law: Zhen was careful step by step, but she was shocked step by step. After her death, she didn’t even have a normal funeral
The most legendary daughter-in-law of the Cao family is Zhen. She was Yuan Shao’s daughter-in-law and met Cao Pi in Youzhou after the war. The beauty in troubled times seems to be particularly lovable. When Zhen looked up and Cao Pi looked down, love came into being. Cao Pi loved her, married her, spoiled her, but killed her. Why did you kill her? Was she not careful? No, in such an environment, Zhen was careful step by step, but he was startled step by step.
Beautiful intentions may not lead to a beautiful life
This beautiful woman has a beautiful heart. She represses her thoughts for her husband and son, but clearly shows her feelings for her mother-in-law, so as to have a safe living space in a society that advocates filial piety. And enumerate the two advanced deeds of Zhen in filial piety.
In the 16th year of Jian’an (A.D. 211), Cao Cao conquered Guanzhong. Mrs. Bian, Zhen’s mother-in-law, accompanied him. On the way, news came that Mrs. Bian was in trouble, and Zhen “cried day and night”. Unable to bear it, he told her the news of Mrs Bian’s slight recovery. Zhen still didn’t believe it: “usually, my mother-in-law recovers very slowly every time she gets sick. How can she recover so quickly this time? Aren’t you fooling me?” The result is more and more worried.
Mrs Bian learned at the front that her daughter-in-law was worried, so she wrote back to prove that she had indeed recovered, and Zhen resumed her normal life.
In the 21st year of Jian’an, Cao Cao went on a business trip to fight again. Along the way, he took Zhen’s mother-in-law, Mrs. Bian, Zhen’s husband Cao Pi, Zhen’s son Cao Rui and his daughter Dongxiang princess. During this period, Zhen’s thoughts of her husband and children should be emaciating, and Zhen is still ill.
Surprisingly, when the Cao family came back from the front line the next year, they found that Zhen looked very good and put on weight. Everyone was puzzled, but Zhen explained, “my husband, my children and my mother-in-law are together. What’s wrong with me?” Show 120 reassurances for my mother-in-law.
I have serious doubts about these two advanced deeds. Because Zhen’s feelings for her mother-in-law seem to go beyond their due scope, going too far and showing off a little. There must be an over cautious mentality behind excessive actions. Xiang Zhen was originally a female member of the Yuan Shao group. She became the daughter-in-law of the Cao family because of a passionate encounter. The original political ties in the Yuan Shao family had broken, and the original resources suddenly evaporated, resulting in her being an isolated individual. In a completely unfamiliar family field, she needed a safe living space. To exchange this space, we must obtain the approval of parents. To get recognition, you can’t go too far. It’s usually just not enough. Zhen’s intentions can be described as good and bitter.
Empress Guo came out to pay back
However, Zhen’s beautiful intentions did not exchange for a beautiful life. In the second year after Cao Pi ascended the throne, Zhen was killed because of his new favorite queen Guo. Zhen’s death was very sad, with his hair scattered and his face covered, and his mouth was stuffed with rice bran, a fierce ghost.
Zhen is unhappy. However, Guo, who deprives her of happiness, is happy? Don’t forget that Zhen and his descendants, Cao Rui, were later emperor Wei Ming.
The death of his mother greatly stimulated Cao Rui’s young heart. He often asked queen Guo: How did my mother die? When asked, Queen Guo was so shocked that she answered embarrassedly, “it was your father who killed me. What’s my business? Are you a son, and you still have to investigate the criminal responsibility of your father? Do you kill your stepmother because of your own mother?”
Cao Rui was enraged. When he became king, he had the power to kill or die, so he “forced to kill” Guo, who was already the Empress Dowager. There were also data saying that Guo died suddenly because of fear. Anyway, his death was strange and abnormal. Wei Mingdi, who wanted to avenge his mother, gave empress dowager Guo the same treatment as his biological mother – messy hair, covered face, and stuffed bran in his mouth. What you did to my mother at first, so do I to you now.
Third generation daughter-in-law: worker’s family background. If you ask the wrong question, you will die
Cao Rui’s mother Zhen was the victim of the court’s struggle for favor, and Cao Rui also avenged his mother. However, he only stayed at the point of revenge and did not realize the liberation of women comrades. Of course, 1700 years ago, it was difficult to ask Comrade Cao Rui to achieve this kind of consciousness.
Cao Rui’s empress, Mao, came from the working class. Mr. Mao makes cars (of course, carriages) on the assembly line. At present, the worker’s family background is very glorious, but at that time, it was not so. The Yu family, the imperial concubine, had great hopes of becoming the queen, but Miss Mao of the workers’ family grabbed the index. Mrs Bian comforted her granddaughter-in-law. Yu family said bitterly, “Cao family is so self-supporting and cheap.” That is to say, the Cao family likes cheap women. This may have irritated grandma Bian, who came from an entertainment star family, and Yu was returned.
Is empress Mao happy? It is also a kind of pseudo happiness. Soon, Cao Rui, a playboy, doted on a concubine surnamed Guo. In 236 ad, Emperor Wei Ming visited the backyard, accompanied by his concubines. Guo felt a little sorry and said, “you should inform the queen.” Cao Rui said heartlessly, “Whoever dares to inform the queen will not want to live.” Empress Mao, who was full of grievances, tentatively told Cao Rui the next day, “was it very happy to visit the garden yesterday?” It was only a careful inquiry, but Cao Rui was angry. A dozen witnesses on the scene died, as did empress Mao. A romantic jealousy ended in blood.
However, in order to cover the blood with a veil of happiness, Cao Rui gave the unjustly killed empress Mao a good posthumous title, gave a heavy burial, and vigorously rewarded the empress’s family.
Conclusion: the annals of the Three Kingdoms covered the coffin of happiness for the Cao family’s daughter-in-law, saying that the Cao family’s daughters-in-law were very happy and classic, and their style was “beautiful in this way”, which was a model worth learning, “enough to be the norm of a hundred kings”. In short, the happiness of Cao’s wife is an unspeakable secret.
In contrast, Ding, who dared to break with Cao Cao publicly and saw Cao Cao off with the figure of shaking the spinning wheel on his knees, was really very happy, very happy. Cao Cao, who lingers and lingers affectionately outside Mrs. Ding’s mother’s window, is really great, very great. For women, the Cao family is not as good as one generation, and their careers are not as good as one generation.
Many rich and noble ladies are false fruits of happiness packaged in shiny fashion. Of course, I’m not just talking about the Three Kingdoms era.