Author: Lu Kewen Source: official account: Lu Kewen Studio has been authorized to reprint
On May 23, 2023, a traffic accident occurred at the Yuehu Campus of Hongqiao Primary School in Hanyang District, Wuhan.
A male Chinese language teacher in his twenties at the school had lunch in the cafeteria and drove to a stop more than 10 meters away from the school gate, waiting for another teacher to come along.
The school stated that the students finished their lunch break at 1:45 pm and started their first class at 2 pm after 15 minutes of free activity. While the male teacher was waiting, a first grade student ran to the front and squatted down, unsure whether to tie their shoelaces or do something. After the car started, the student may have been in a blind spot. The male teacher drove over the child, and the two wheels on the left ran over and stopped. The student passed away after being rushed to the hospital for rescue.
The parents of the child believe that the child was crushed and dragged twice, and did not get off the car for inspection after the first collision, which is a dispute between the two parties.
But Ms. Yang, the mother of the child who rushed to school to handle the matter, was subsequently subjected to a large amount of online violence. The netizens believed that Ms. Yang was showing off on the internet, dressing too well and putting on makeup. Some mocked her for handling the child’s death just to demand more compensation.
Ms. Yang was wearing professional attire for work that day, and makeup was also necessary for work. After her son was knocked down, she rushed to the scene in a hurry, which unexpectedly became the source of this online violence.
Wave after wave of internet abusers also suffered from the loss of their beloved son. Finally, on June 2nd, Ms. Yang jumped off the 24th floor of her own community and died.
Small hot spots on the Internet usually have a small cycle of two to three days, and a large cycle of seven to fifteen days. Super hot spots have a cycle of one to two months. It is estimated that Ms. Yang will disappear in the Internet age of information explosion in less than two days due to the suicide event of cyber violence, and everyone’s attention will shift to a star breakup, an international conflict, a corrupt official falling to the ground, a bizarre homicide, and so on.
But because what Ms. Yang has encountered will happen again in the future, this is not a social case, but a social case, we should talk about how to face the problem of online violence.
What I want to talk about is how to face online violence, without mentioning how to eradicate it, because I know that online violence cannot be eradicated or stopped.
Because this matter does not belong to the criminal category and has vague boundaries, it cannot be clearly defined before and after the incident. You can only face it and it is difficult to stop it.
China currently has a population of 1.4 billion, with a total of 1.067 billion netizens, except for those who are too old or usually under the age of 12 who do not have a phone. In real life, you can see that some people are furious over a scallion, some are cheap mouthed and like to sneer at others, and some are unreasonable and stubbornly trying to compete with you for victory or defeat. This type of person with an abnormal personality can even lift the table with you after eating due to missing two grains of salt, There is no way to deal with them at all. Their total proportion is not large, but China’s base is too large, even if it is only 1%. If you multiply it by 1.4 billion, the data is still terrifying.
Everyone must have encountered such people in their work, who have negative energy all over their bodies and are cheap all day long. They have no bottom line in their work, constantly flirting with colleagues and friends, causing you to turn around and run away. The charges are not significant and very annoying, and even the King of Hell has a headache when he sees them.
These people still have some restraint in real life, after all, if they behave too lowly, they may be beaten at any time. Even if an honest person gets angry, they will take advantage of it, causing their head to break and blood to flow. The input and output of lowly people are not proportional.
But on the internet, it’s different. On the internet, you can’t beat him, providing him with ample activity space to play cheap. He runs away with a cheap word, leaving only one ID, and you don’t know his name, profession, or where he lives. If you want to beat him, you can’t beat him.
Like this time when Ms. Yang was exposed to online violence, someone else was a real estate company selling a house and should have dressed like this. When the child had an accident and rushed to school, who would still go home and change clothes at this time? As a result, clothing and appearance can also be a reason for online violence.
If in real life, we rarely dare to evaluate others’ clothing and appearance in this way, at most we can privately discuss a few words. However, when it comes to the internet, he has a cover, the screen is his protective shell, and WIFI is his safety line. He talks and says, but he can’t run. The low input to output ratio is extremely high, and he feels satisfied mentally.
There is a characteristic on the internet that the more extreme the sound transmission chain, the farther it is, and the shorter the peaceful sound transmission chain. When this kind of cheap person starts to stand out, it becomes a benchmark case, highlighting the moral advantages of ordinary people. Ordinary people also often give the cheap person a thumbs up or a few words of agreement.
There is still a difference between ordinary people and extreme people who play cheap. Cheating is the act of actively causing harm, while ordinary people are often unconscious and passive in participating. Once the person who plays cheap stands on the moral high ground, condescending to blame others, and there is no danger, ordinary people see that this person has not been beaten, and it is quite impressive, and the scolding seems reasonable. This thinking makes it easy for them to participate, forming a collective cyberbullying.
The difference between reality and the internet provides a living environment for internet abusers.
Extreme internet sluts, they also have a bad life in real life, and most of their bad lives are caused by themselves. They are annoying but not aware of themselves, and they do things that are despicable but not introspective. In reality, when they do more of these things, their colleagues next to them will slap them in the face. However, when they do more of these things online, no one cares and there are still people who praise them. They just owe this slap to clean up, so they become increasingly cheap, To vent his dirty emotions by occupying various moral highlands and accusing others.
We all know that in reality, we should try not to slander others, which is not good for ourselves and others. The internet lacks this collective consensus and a punishment mechanism.
But due to the unique nature of the internet, it is difficult to judge this type of slut. Is this his first slut? Or have you been cheap multiple times? Did you accidentally lower yourself once? Or is it often shameful? This character division is difficult to define, and he hasn’t broken the law, so he really can’t handle it.
But in real life, it’s different. In real life, friends and colleagues often have to deal with each other. If someone is very cheap and everyone around them knows it, they will form a consensus on who should be taken seriously.
With such a low starting point for writing comments online, biodiversity has become increasingly complex.
Usually, there are relatively more people who use mouth poison on Weibo, Zhihu, and Douban. These platforms also want to clean up, but there is really no good way to distinguish these people. They can only remind those who write comments to “hurt people in June, and good words in winter.” However, this kind of reminder is basically useless to prevent gentlemen from being petty people.
So as I mentioned earlier, we can only discuss how to face online violence, and there is no way to eradicate it.
I am particularly experienced in this because I am constantly being hacked by the internet.
Approximately every day, I am subjected to four to five hundred internet attacks, with at least two to three hundred dirty messages. You often face various insults, insults, jealousy, hatred, ridicule, nicknames, warnings, and derogations. If one day no one on the internet scolds me, it would be like celebrating a shooting in New York without opening champagne.
However, I have some doubts that as long as they are public figures, they will definitely be subjected to online violence. The more famous people are, the greater the probability of being subjected to online violence.
It is only divided into small and large cyber attacks. Small cyber attacks occur every day, while large cyber attacks occur once a year. Most public figures have developed a strong physique.
In fact, there is no good way to deal with online violence. If you can’t scold thousands of people alone, the person who scolds you has no intention of reasoning with you. They just want to vent their emotions, and any cases or data you have are useless in front of them. He just keeps cursing and scolding until he finishes work.
From the first day I became a public figure, I had a particularly good mentality because I started a company offline and almost went bankrupt several times. It was much more painful than online violence, and I couldn’t pay my salary. I was so anxious that you had to hit the wall with your head and want to jump off a building, and my psychological threshold was raised.
When I was doing Taobao, I was chased and scolded by this guy and all Taobao service providers because he exposed a scam involving a person engaged in Taobao’s gray industry in Shanghai. He scolded me for half a month and even blackmailed me together. Everyone was afraid of this guy’s lewd power, and even my Taobao colleagues dared not speak to me, causing me to not recover for a while.
I have seen all kinds of ups and downs, so when I was first noticed on the internet, that internet storm was like spring breeze and drizzle to me.
But after a long time, it’s also annoying. Every day is endless, with hundreds of frustrated messages, especially on Weibo and Zhihu. No matter how good your temper is, it’s also annoying.
People like me who have suffered thousands of injuries have this reaction. Ordinary people usually live a simple life, and are suddenly scolded by tens of thousands of people. Anyone else’s mentality will be unbalanced.
There is only one way, don’t argue, wait for things to pass.
There’s really no way. If someone is abusing you online, you can blackmail them. Don’t argue, they don’t want to listen to your excuses. They just come to vent their emotions and the frustration they’ve accumulated in real life. When they see someone being scolded, they rush over. When they’ve had enough of it, they feel bored and disperse.
In addition, I advise the relatives and friends of the victim of online violence not to see your relatives and friends being raped. Just take a picture and privately send it to them, and tell them that you see, this person is cursing you.
What era is it? Your relatives and friends who have been sexually assaulted must know it. They don’t lack your reminder. Your actions are just adding chaos and further disrupting the emotions of those who have been sexually assaulted. It’s best to pretend that nothing has happened before and deal with your family and friends normally. You should eat, drink, and engage in more offline activities. It’s best not to mention the fact that your relatives and friends have been sexually assaulted, and wait for things to pass naturally.
If there’s really no other way, then come up with a big move. The person who has been hacked by the internet will lock their phone in the drawer, leave the online world for a period of time, take a cash trip, and come back a week later, you will find that the people who used to hack you have scattered clean, and the world is chasing new social news. Suddenly, no one in the world pays attention to you.
Who do you say you are, and who else will ask you back? Who remembers you.
In fact, people who have been subjected to online violence cannot bear to commit suicide, due to the oppression of their social environment. I have seen people who engage in psychological research stand in subway carriages and loudly say that they are stupid, and the people around them just lift their eyelids to look at him and do what they should do.
The psychologist said, ‘Look, you’re not that important in this world. In fact, people don’t value you, don’t feel oppressed, don’t feel that you’re being cared for, just live a good life.’.
There are plenty of sluts on the internet, and you can’t get busy. You slap him in the face, and his face is covered in excrement before he even dirties your hands.
If it’s hard to avoid cyberbullying, you just need to be aware that it’s cyberbullying. It will dissipate after a while, but it’s not enough. Just stay away from the internet. You chop firewood, ride a bike, take a walk, fly a kite, and have a good time away from the internet.
Because sluts are always sluts, you cannot fight back, but at least you can stay away from them.